Sometimes we can have very strong opinions based on our own truth. These opinions can become a part of our driving force. Sometimes we can cross a line with our ideals to prove to others that we are right. This can become such a powerful part of us that we end up hurting other people without wanting to.
I have been following the chaos during the American election. It is a is really sad show, a classic example of egos with a very narrow-minded attitude, coming together saying: We are right – You are wrong. They cannot meet in a middle ground. The energy we put into something because we want to prove that we are right… It is amazing.
I had a meeting with someone the other day, a person with very strong opinions. We meet these people every day. What do we do? Do we go into conflict to try and disprove the other person or do we attempt to find a middle ground, even though we have very different opinions? The world would be a very boring place if we all thought the same way or had the same philosophies.
When I meet someone, who do not share my way of thinking, it certainly is a challenge for the ego. I have a very strong will. Had I not had; I would not have survived. But if I never met people with opposing views, I would miss wonderful opportunities to review my thoughts. If we did not meet people with opposing views we would never grow or self-examinate. This is very important to me. Do we catch these opportunities?
Whatever I believe in it is not my right to force my truth onto another. It is not always easy to deal with, when someone is trying to force you to share their beliefs. It is a hard thing to remain open minded and neutral. But I do believe we have to become more aware of this. I do not believe there is one absolute truth. The point of spirituality is to learn to accept and listen with an open mind, without needing to attack or to discriminate.
Ego is a powerful thing. It can make us cross a line, become radical. This is something that we see all over the world in different shapes and forms. When you meet someone that think you are wrong or question your beliefs, try to stand still and think: How can this help me as a human being?
The need to be right can take us into a place where we just reach a dead end, but if we extend a hand and listen to someone, we may not agree with them, but it is better to listen instead of going into defence. As long as their truth is not hurting anyone, it is worth listening to. When people have confronted me, it has helped me. Lessons in life is to meet people who do not think like you do. This has opened my mind and given me an opportunity to contemplate. It helps me move on and makes me more open to other people’s points of view.