I have been together with my wife for almost five years now. Being married to Astrid and learning to give and take within a relationship has been really mind opening for me, for both of us, I believe. Yes, I have been married before, but it was not like the marriage that I now have. Being together with Astrid has made me realise so many things that I do not think I would have realised if I had not said to her: Will you marry me?
During the journey we have made together these last five years, it has almost felt as if we have been together in another incarnation. Astrid has never felt like a stranger. It felt right from day one, it was something I had to follow, that I should not avoid. She is her own person and stands on her own two feet. She has an identity and it is growing. Astrid is not dependent on me.
I can say that I have met my match, but it is not a competition. I am realising that we have something that is so important. We discuss, we are both very strong people, so it has taken us time to find a middle ground. We have had to compromise and let go of set ideas, how things should be done. What has really been positive for me too is that I have a partner with the same beliefs, but with her own thoughts and philosophy. She is intuitive and mediumistic. As we share our experiences, we create another middle ground that I have never had with a partner. We have the same spiritual language, but different points of view and when she talks about her animal communication for instance, it is enlightening for me. And she is working with it, successfully I might ad.
“For the first time in my life I have truly understood what love is, between two people who are so different, but also quite alike.
It is like a pendulum on a clock swinging from side to side, it is in balance. Give and take. There are times when it needs adjusting of course. But Astrid sees me for who I really am, with my strengths and weaknesses as I do with her. With Astrid I can be myself, she is not looking to be married to the medium, but to Terry. I am with a person who gives my life a better rhythm, and our relationship continues to grow.
Even though we have an interesting life, there have also been times when we have fallen into the trap of not giving to one another, just because we work so hard. From time to time we realise that we have neglected one another in some way, we might have taken something for granted. Then we might need a short talk where we share something and re-connect.
One of our biggest challenges is that we both have strong personalities and for me that is a big relief that Astrid is an independent individual. It has been very pleasurable for me to watch Astrid grow within her profession; working with animal communication and also writing for Ascala News. She has the most amazing dreams, mirroring the relationship she has with spirit.
For the first time in my life I have truly understood what love is, between two people who are so different, but also quite alike. Where the future will take us, I have no idea, but my wish is that we can walk together until it is time for either one of us to say: Farewell, we will meet again on the other side!