It is said when we go over to the other side it is judgement day for us. It sounds as if it is going to be a frightening experience. In my experiences, from the people that I have helped over to the other side they are all welcomed with love, warmth and empathy.
When somebody passes over to the other side, they are first given a period of rest and recuperation for their soul. Once they have had their period of recuperation, and once they realise that they are in another level of consciousness, then they are met with every good and bad deed, however great or small, that they have conducted in their life. It is like watching a movie of all the things you have done. On this level everything is transparent, nothing can be hidden or denied. You feel everything you have done to others – consciously and unconsciously, through thoughts and actions. When you feel what you have been it is a moment of huge self-realisation. Spirit has shown me this many times. There can be individuals that remain in denial, but then they receive continuous help to come out of it, so that their soul can move on.
Many times, when working as a clairvoyant, people have come back from the other side and asked the recipient for forgiveness. Just because we pass to the other side it does not mean we just let everything go, we have to work on the unresolved issues we carry with us.
My stepfather came back, my guide brought him back one evening many years ago.
– There is someone here that wants to talk to you. He told me that he cannot move on until he has asked for forgiveness.
To cut a long story short, in him asking for that I was put in a situation where I was actually able to free myself from the hold and the influence he had on my life. It was not done through aggression. A very powerful thing happened to me, when he came back the following day to visit me. I had the power to say to him, ”Stop, this is as far as it goes”, and then I had a huge realisation. Because of the cruel treatment he handed out, physically and mentally, it was at that moment that I realised my bitterness and anger made us connected to one another.
“It is amazing what power bitterness, hate and anger has;
it inhibits us.
When I had that moment of realisation it was a huge relief. When I set the line and let go of my bitterness and hate it also released him. After that experience I felt much lighter and much more open. It is amazing what power bitterness, hate and anger has; it inhibits us. However, many people I meet are very bitter and sad, deeply affected by their childhood or life, but whatever feelings they carry within, would it not be useful to take the steps and seek reconciliation before the person that awoke these feelings passes over? When reconciliation comes into play miracles can happen.
Often people come to me for readings and they still have not let go of a person that have departed, but who has treated them badly. They are still engulfed in turmoil, but at the end of the day it only hurts themselves. I was one of these people, who carried many negative memories and thoughts about my stepfather, ultimately the only person it was destroying was me. That is why I believe personal development is such a necessary thing for all human beings. There is no such thing as a perfect human being, we would not have to come back to earth if we were.
If you have these feelings, regret, bitterness, denial etcetera look back at your life and think: How much energy have I given to this? What could I have achieved if I had freed myself from this burden? Sometimes we just have to walk away from things, but it is better to move on and come to terms with the past. We cannot change it. So, just think about all the negative thoughts that you have sent out to someone, or all the negative thoughts that someone has given you. Remember, what goes around comes around. That goes for both positivity and negativity.
Just thought I would share this with you. Reconciliation is an act of love an act of forgiveness. Try it, it does work, even though the person we are trying to reconcile with does not want to take that step, at least we can know we have done our best.