When I look back over my life I remember the times when people, who I have either worked with or known, have been very impatient with me. They have given me advice, told me to change and at times been quite aggressive, because I quite simply have not understood what they were talking about. Of course, at times I tried to meet their demands or follow their advice, but that was not always possible. Then I would think: They are asking me to be in a certain way, but why do they not live their lives like that themselves?
I remember a day many years ago; I had to learn a technique that was developed by a man I whose job I was taking over. We went through the technique for an hour; it had taken him many years to develop it, and after that I said to him: “I need more time with this”, but he avoided my request. Then I realised that he did not want anyone else to be successful at this job, such was his ego.
It is easy to forget that it does not matter how much a person knows or how well-educated they are, everything is still a process that takes time. We cannot demand or expect that people we teach, work with or live with always can meet our expectations of how they should be. Very often when I am teaching somebody else I remember that man many years ago, and the effect it had on me when he almost became hostile when I said: “I need more time with this.” I am really glad I had that experience; it is like a marker that reminds me.
“You cannot teach or communicate with anybody if you expect people to think as you do, or see the world as you do.
When I work with spirit and they are trying to teach me something new they will already know my limitations and my potential. They understand the importance of working with the process, as opposed to demanding when the process should be complete. Thank goodness they have taught me that, but I still have a lot to learn. You cannot teach or communicate with anybody if you expect people to think as you do, or see the world as you do. If you make those demands all empathy and tolerance disappear. It is so easy to go out and criticise others, seeing their shortcomings or whatever.
The process can be likened to a farmer farming his land, before cultivation can take place he has to prepare the ground i.e. plough the grounds, set the seeds, step back and let the process of nature take its’ course. That is what my spirit friends do to me; they guide me towards what I must be responsible for, they sow a seed and allow it to germinate. They then step back watching the progress I make. Throughout the process they are a bit like the weather; they step in from time to time and assist me with the cultivation in order to give the crop the nourishment it needs. Then one day the magic shows itself and the harvest is ready to be reaped: What I have been working towards together with a friend, a family member or a colleague synchronizes and suddenly we have achieved balance.
I thank all the people who before have not been tolerant, critical or demanded too much of me, because now when I am crossing those lines I have a much better opportunity of understanding how I can be towards other people. When we see the shortcomings of others they very often live in a place within ourselves. I am glad I have the spirits as my friends, they have taught me so much.