I have had many people come up to me and say: I would like to come to one of your courses Terry, but I do not dare, because I do not feel I am spiritual enough. Do I have enough experience? This can be compared to so many other challenging situations in life where we give up before we even really tried, because deep within us there is this overriding feeling that we are not good enough. Sometimes we are conscious of it and sometimes we are not. I do not believe that there is a human being walking this earth that is without fears or phobias.
As I say to my students when we all meet for the first time in the course room: I am not looking for who is the best or the brightest, or who has the most potential. It is not important for me to know what social or academic standing you have within everyday life. When I work with you I am working with who you are, where you are educationally and emotionally, and what you need so that you can carry out this education successfully.
My hope is to be able give them the support that they need and help them come into contact with their phobias and fears that they before have not been able to overcome and therefore have given up. Of course, to be successful they also have to be committed to their process; it cannot be their teacher doing the job for them. Self-motivation is always a challenge. Others can inspire you, but at the end of the day you have to inspire yourself.
When taking on a challenge in any form e.g. an education or training, we can meet another challenge: “I cannot be bothered to do the work today. I will leave that work for another time”, and consequently we sometimes give up. We lose motivation. It still amazes me how skillful these old fears and doubts are at sabotaging the momentum, which is necessary in us achieving success. I myself can recall the times that the fear of not being good enough have brought forward a feeling of complete inadequacy, and I believe that most human beings have had to face that particular demon.
That demon can show itself in relationships, in the working environment, in fact in every area of our lives when we are met with the challenge: Can I do this? As I look back onto the past I can also remember the times when completing something successfully and how it has given me a moment of great joy. I have said to myself: Yes, I did it!
That old demon that uses the words: Are you good enough, can never be erased completely, but when I hear that voice these days I see it as a challenge, not as a threat. I have seen many people down through the years that have had the same realization and when experiencing that moment of victory they have carried their task to the full circle. They have overcome the hurdle of that old passenger we carry that tells us we are not good enough. That shows real character and accomplishment. True character comes from the heart, from the soul.
So where are you? What have you had to meet to overcome something? Do you dare face that old demon that tells you frequently: “You are not good enough” or “Who do you think you are?”