I had two excellent teachers, both of them was very honest and straight to the point. You were not in their classroom to have your ego fed. I was hungry to read as many books as I could. I went to lectures. My first teacher, Ms Tilling, who was 90 years at the time and the president at the spiritualist church I attended, would hold a discussion group once a week, which for me opened many doors and made me realise the importance of what I was doing as a medium and what a mediums code of conduct should be.
She taught me a lot about the spiritualist philosophy and we discussed a lot about the history of mediumship, trance and physical mediumship and so on. This really helped me create a fairly stable base from which to work from.
What I did realise was the importance of learning by doing, by using the tools I had received. Not just learning by meditation or opening up to spirit, taking courses and so on. Books and courses can open up new doors for us in our thinking, but when you are awarded a diploma that does not state that you are a medium, you have been given tools and learnt about the philosophy of spirit.
So, when I started to work as a medium in London I was learning by experience. I realised that when I was giving a reading or a demonstration people would not understand everything and sometimes they would not understand that a medium cannot live up to their expectations on who will come through etcetera – and at times I would make mistakes.
This taught me how to improve my level of communication, both with the spirit and the person receiving the message. I did not make the assumption that everything I said would be correct or understood. Another thing I did learn was that being a neutral channel is the main objective for a medium. I have said this before, I will say it again, a medium is just a person with an ability.
Every time I make a mistake, my endeavour is to be completely honest and acknowledge my mistakes. In so doing I also have a possibility to go back to the spirit and rectify the situation. Mediums are only people, but when we say to people we can fix everything and we become bigger than we really are that is when we are in trouble. Keep it simple and be honest. This enables you as a medium to have a much closer contact with spirit.
Up until today I at times misinterpret information given to me, but I try not to make the same mistake repeatedly. I wish to keep my contact with spirit as neutral as possible. Sometimes it works better than others, but that is also human nature.
People very often ask me questions and there are times when I have to say to them: “I am sorry I do not have the answer to that.” When people come to us mediums they are vulnerable and in need of help, so it is very important we tell them when we do not have the answer. If we give the impression we know everything we put ourselves and the clients in a very difficult position.
Learning by doing has enabled for me to recognise what needs to be improved in my work. If I am honest and admit when I need more experience that keeps my mind open. Yes, it is nice to go to a course and to read an interesting book. That can help too, but knowledge and wisdom can only be achieved by doing and accepting the challenge.
I will always make mistakes. I cannot be everything to everyone and I really do not know if I am spiritual, but the task for me is to dare to be Terry and use my abilities in a clear and honest way.