When SVT called me and asked me to be part of the programme “The meeting” (Mötet) with Christer Sturmark, my first reaction was to say no. He and his followers have been hunting me down for years and he has a history of being dogmatic, believing he has the only truth, being a (former) humanist himself.
After some consideration I decided it was time to meet him face to face, as I had already invited him to do 10 years previously. He then said he would meet me if ever I was passing through Stockholm, but that meeting never happened. However, I wanted to see if he was capable to live up to the program concept; two people meeting, perhaps finding a middle ground or at least accepting one others truth.
I said to SVT that I was not going to try to prove anything to Sturmark, because I knew what the outcome would be and how he would behave. Whatever I would say he would not accept it. However, SVT asked: “Could you give him some kind of proof?” I told them again how I felt. That he already has his preconceived ideas, so it would be pointless. He would not be ready to listen, because he already has his beliefs of how mediumship works. Also, I have never worked to prove to anybody what I can do. It is spirit who decide who will come through and what they will talk about.
When we were having our exchange of philosophy Sturmark did everything in his power to try shut me down and would not answer my questions. He just seemed to be interested in using the program for his own personal reasons, to beat his own drum I kept my calm and understood that there was no point in trying to challenge him to think differently. I just stepped back. The programme turned out exactly the way I in which thought it would.
A person like that is only interested in proving themselves. Sturmark is quite clear in his beliefs and that is his right, but what was disappointing for me was that he did not show any kind of humility or willingness to meet half way, which would have enabled us to have an interesting exchange.
The biggest challenge for me was not to allow myself to go into some kind of competition with him. I would just have let myself down. I was there to offer my point of view, not to go into a slanging match. That would not have achieved anything. We are both allowed to have our own beliefs, as long as it does not hurt anyone else.
I know how Sturmark behaves in debate. I have seen him in debate before. You cannot reach a person with a mindset like that. He seems to be on a crusade to convert people. That is not my way. The basics of Sturmark’s beliefs are humanistic, but he seems to have missed the point that human beings have the right to have their own beliefs. People will form their own opinion. That is a human right. The people that come to me as a medium choose to do so because they believe in what I do. I do not force the information I receive from spirit onto them.
I was not disappointed after the recording of the programme. I do not feel the programme’s purpose was achieved, but my thoughts about Sturmark once again was confirmed. I will never waste my time giving a reading or trying to show my ability to anyone behaving like that. I am not prepared to dance Sturmarks dance, people like him will never accept whatever I could offer.
When you knock on somebody’s door in the right way you have to wait for them to come and open the door. Unfortunately, Sturmark do not know how to do that. He just uses his battering ram trying to smash their door down. He is not at all interested in having a civil conversation.