Every relationship needs communication. We need to share our individual needs and to listen to our partner sharing. Invariably you will meet a situation where your respective has a different view. How do you connect in that situation? Naturally, the skill is to find the middle ground, but if someone’s needs at times encroaches on your needs you should give it a voice. Sometimes it takes time to understand what it is you really need, both for yourself and your partner.
A marriage is a learning experience for both parties. Within that sacred room where the love and respect is, the room of the heart, honest communication does not always give you the result that you want, but it can start a process. The amazing thing with my own partner, it would appear now that we have learned to respect one another’s needs and give one another space to be who we really are, as opposed to being something that we are not.
As our marriage progresses it is certainly a journey, but we seem to have had these self-realisations and in so doing we have found that our personalities and needs have found a meeting place. In respecting one another we have realised how we can give more power and commitment to one another. We are both strong and independent personalities and that has been a test too.
We know we care, because we still support one another. We see and hear one another. One thing I can rely on with my partner is that she will always tell me what she thinks as I will her. It makes me feel safe. It is like our minds are melding and we are creating a meeting place without losing our personalities. Two minds – one consciousness. When that is achieved it creates even more fertile ground for that place within to grow and develop. Love never grows unless it is given fertile ground where there is room for compromise, at the same time it is important to keep your own identity.